Is it good to have someone to miss?
I asked someone this question about a week ago. The answer she gave me was a paradox: "It's good to have someone to miss, but not good when you start to miss that person.."
As any other matter or thing in life, even this matter has its pros and cons. I guess it's just up to everyone how he or she wants to look at things. On this matter, missing somebody is part and parcel of being in a relationship with another person; be it a romantic one or relatives or siblings - basically people who are close enough for you to have this sort of emotion for them.
Recently, i've been reading a book called social intelligence. This book talks about a relatively new field that has links to psychology and neuroscience. Though, it also mentions things such as how human beings experience emotional pain. It seems that whenever a person thinks about emotional pain, it activates the same center of the brain that sends signals of physical pain (which is the amygdala). This means that when you're feeling emotional pain such as heart break and the sorts, the impact on you is the same as when you're really in pain physically.
So what's the deal when you have someone to miss? Do you get something to lose? I see it as nothing to lose, rather you gain something you should never, ever think of letting go. Having a person to miss is one of the greatest things you could ever have. He or she, is a friend/lover/cousin/relative or anything close to that. The pain that you would feel, i think is nothing compared to that of the relationship that you and that person shares. If you're in love with that person, the more you should think of making it last.
No man, or woman, is born on earth to not have someone else to care about and to be cared by. Don't forsake your fellow friends, it's like forsaking yourself...
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