Life as you are
Recently, i just went over to Doulos' blog and found a rather catchy phrase from the series "Heroes". I know that a lot of people are into it and many people are following the series like metal drawn to magnets, so it's just too bad that i do not have cable tv in my house. Or is that a good thing? To all those who are TV addicts, your answers are always welcome. =p
This was the phrase that caught my eye:
"To be truly happy, a man must live absolutely in the present, no thought of what’s gone before and no thought of what lies ahead. But a life with meaning, a man is condemned to wallow in the past and obsess about the future."
Just to contemplate a person's life in ups and downs would seem a simple enough task. But to sincerely view a person's life with just ups and downs, i think that would be quite unfair. I doubt that one can truly view life in purely black and white. Truthfully, if we are all good then the bad people are all the people who have a totally opposite view on life. But, where do thier viewpoints come from? In actual fact, their viewpoints are mainly based on rational ideas and some weirdly logical views. The only thing that makes it "bad" or "evil" is that they might have slipped in the little message that they wish to eradicate all life as it is on earth. Oh well...
To be truly happy: How does one achieve it?
To live a life with meaning: How does one achieve this too?
How do you life a happy, meaningful life?
If we were to follow the the words from Heroes to the point, there would be such a stigma on life that i suppose, we wouldn't really be "living" any more. Some people might have said before that they were "living a lie" and other stuff like that. Perhaps they've just come to the point where they don't know what to do next. It's not the matter of how to live your life anymore, but what and how are you going to live tomorrow. Do you take it as a holiday? Or maybe you'll become a workaholic and drown yourself in tonnes of paperwork? There's so many possibilities, and to be setting them apart into distinctions of binary "yes" or "no" situations would seem a little bit farfetched.
When we are in a state of mayhem, we say life sucks; and when we are in a state of euphoria, we tell everyone what a wonderful life this is. But have you considered times when you were somewhere in between? Not really sad, but kind of happy? An example would be feeling hope. Not the hope where you've accomplished something so great that your dreams might come true the next day, but the type of hope when you're in a great deal of pain. Imagine if you're got stage 4 cancer, or your life just went down the drain because your boss fired you and your house got burnt down, or if your girlfriend/boyfriend just dumped you and you're on the verge of suicide; and then you find out that you can actually live tomorrow - you still got a good few days to go. That strange mixture of sad and happy, is the type of hope that i'm talking about. As if you would die the next day and someone told you that you can live - that type.
Maybe it's an intrinsic thing that makes people try and simplify things, or maybe it's just that we cannot make sense of the ever-so-complexed organization of our bloody-confusing-thoughts in our confused-and-baffled-hearts-and-minds so we try and tell ourselves: "all you have to do..." Ah, is that deception? Of course not, it's not being too simple either - it's putting things into perspective.
In my point of view, i'd say that we're living such a turbulent life. We start off as a baby, like somebody just dumped your into an alien world and you have to start to learn all of these weird things. Then you're a kid and you start to see all the bullshit that your parents have been hiding from you because you were just "too young" to understand. But then, you become an adolescent and start to hate the guts out of your parents for not telling you enough about this world. Or maybe for their never ending poking around in your personal life or things that you don't want them to know about. Their excuse: we're your parents - as if that itself is the ultimate moral standard that gives them the right to everything. Then you grow up a little more and you find out, things are just so messed up - life's a bitch. You live to regret where you've come from, things you haven't done, things you messed up on and things you missed out on. You try and make yourself happy by looking at things that you have done, but you just can't stop comparing those stuff to things that other people have had it better off. Now life is beginning to really suck, huh?
Well the rest, what comes next, is the rest of your life. I don't think you're going to waste away in it, and i certainly doubt you will jump off the next cliff you see. I think, you are going to try and perform some miracle in yourself. Why? Because you're just feeling that things might be better if you try this or that. Well, you know, what are you waiting for?
The phrase that i took from Doulos' blog? Well, it might be a little philosphical for you, and it might be a little baffling of why it goes that way. But think about it, maybe from there you can find your own description of life.
Why go with what others say, when you can create your own wonderland? It just takes a little effort, on your part.
2 comments:
Hi Ke Pang...
Thanks for dropping by my blog..
I don't know how you stumbled across it...But... It's nice to be bumping into you in this realm of cyberspace.
As much as I'm embarrassed to say this...How do you look like? I know we're both students from HELP...Plus, I think I've seen your name somewhere around...
But...I don't know who you really are.
Haha...
By the way, it's terrific to know a HELP student who is as interested as I am about Cognitive & Biopsychology!
*wheeeeeeeee~*
So far, I think I only know 3 students who are interested in majoring in it for postgrad...
John Kiat (B. Psych), Kevin Soo (B. Psych) & myself (ADP).
Are you in ADP too?
hi jean...erm...
i'm a guy...and..i think you know me lol...but maybe you don't know my name :P
i'll give you a clue...i've got long hair nearly up to my shoulders....lol...
i'm more into cognitive psychology...i intend to do that for my master's degree...but for a Ph. D i might have other plans. might be aiming for a cognitive neuroscience doctorate =)
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